How to Survive Life In Today's World

120x-scribble-counselingLife happens, and you never know what lies around the corner. It brings fantastic rewards and overwhelming challenges, which can come through family, friends, relationships, a job (or lack of one), a loss and so many other things. It’s natural to feel overwhelmed at times, and you might need a little help getting through it all.

Counseling Services - Tools for Life provides guidance and support through individual, couple, family and group therapy. We also offer a full range of psychological testing as well as psychiatric assessments and medication management as an adjunct to counseling. 

How to Care for Yourself and Everything Else

  1. Set realistic expectations for yourself.
    We let ourselves believe we can be everything to everyone. But eventually, we have to acknowledge there are limits. Ask others for help. People feel good about being asked. JF&CS’ counselors know how to help you set the limits so you can take care of yourself.

  2. Pay attention to what your body is telling you.
    Are you eating? Sleeping? Do you suffer from chronic pain? Physical symptoms are often indicators of stress, anxiety, depression and exhaustion. Research shows that being overwhelmed mentally and emotionally can lead to a compromised immune system, leaving you vulnerable to illness and infection.

  3. Take time for yourself.
    Exercise. Just 20 minutes a day can have a restorative effect on your sense of well-being.

How to Address Addiction

  1. Know the difference between “normal” substance use and abuse, between social drinking and alcoholism.
    Recognize the signs and symptoms — for yourself or others. Are you neglecting work or school responsibilities? Drinking or using drugs under dangerous conditions? Is your drug use getting you into legal trouble? Is drinking affecting your relationships?

  2. Pay attention to when you’re feeling the urge to drink or use substances.
    Are you drinking more than you said you would or when you said you wouldn’t? Are you trying to avoid obligations or remove yourself from uncomfortable situations?

  3. Understand the risk factors so you can predict and prevent addiction.
    Is there a family history? Did you experience abuse or other trauma as a child? Are you depressed? Did you start using drugs or alcohol at an early age? These are just some indications you could be at risk.

  4. Know what’s true and what’s not about addiction.
    There are a lot of myths out there, including the one that says you can’t do anything about it. You can start by calling HAMSA (Helping Atlantans Manage Substance Abuse). HAMSA helps those struggling with or affected by substance abuse who are seeking a connection to Jewish values, community and culture. 

How to Recognize and Stop an Abusive Relationship

  1. How do you know when you have been abused?
    Domestic violence can be physical, emotional or sexual. And if you, a friend or family member has been abused, what do you do? Shalom Bayit, a program of Tools for Life, offers counseling, support groups and educational programming on domestic violence.

  2. Know the red flags.
    Does your partner isolate you from friends or family? Want to know where you are at all times? Constantly criticize you or call you names? Force you to turn over your paycheck and control any money you earn? Push or hit you, destroy your belongings, throw things at you or force you to have sex? Does your partner threaten to hurt you or others, to have you deported or to disclose your sexual orientation or other personal information?

  3. Trust your instincts and make sure you are safe.
    If you think you are being abused, take action and talk to someone. Seek support so you are not alone. Make a plan for your own safety.

  4. Recognize abuse is not your fault.
    Nobody deserves to be abused. It isn’t your fault; it can happen to anyone. There’s no reason to be ashamed.

  5. Intervene with friends and family who may be abused.
    Share your concerns about problematic behaviors or incidents you have observed. Listen and believe. Inquire about safety. Avoid blaming. Recognize one must make one’s own decisions about staying or leaving a relationship. But remember, safety comes above all else. 

  6. If you are in danger and need immediate help, call 911 or the Georgia 24-hour hotline at 1.800.334.2836.

  7. For counseling, safety planning or support groups, contact Shalom Bayit. For more information, visit YTFL.org/shalombayit