How to Age as a Family

120x-scribble-avivAging isn’t only about older adults; it’s also about those who care for them. Aviv Older Adult Services - Tools for Aging offers an umbrella of services, including in-home care, designed to support both older adults and their families. Our licensed clinical social workers, geriatric care managers, certified information and referral specialists, master’s level clinicians, registered nurses and other professional staff members have years of experience in aging.

How to Ask Your Aging Parents to Give Up Their Car Keys Without Giving Up Their Dignity

  1. Understand that driving equals independence.
    Think seriously about how isolated you would be if you couldn’t drive anymore and how you would feel if your children didn’t want you to. Your parents might want to drive past the time it is safe for them and others on the road.

  2. Prepare for the conversation. Listen and be ready to discuss alternatives.

  3. Contact Tools for Aging for guidance. We can recommend transportation options for elders without taking away their independence.

How to Let Your Parents Remain in Their Home as Long as Possible

  1. Understand your parents’ feelings and needs.
    While some older adults are not able to live on their own or may prefer to be in a larger facility with others, many want to stay in their own homes.

  2. Contact Legacy Home Care.
    We offer a wide variety of nonmedical services that support activities of daily living, enabling older adults to remain at home as long as possible.

How to Approach a Big Move – Closer to You

  1. Put yourself in your parents’ shoes and listen.
    It might be more convenient to have your parents nearby, but you should be educated about services available in your area before approaching the subject. Then you can explain the benefits of being closer to family and the availability of better services as they age.

  2. Contact Tools for Aging to help start your search.

How to Raise the Subject of Advanced Directives

  1. Know what it is.
    An advanced directive clearly states your wishes if you are ever in a position where you cannot articulate your needs for medical treatment. It identifies those who may speak on your behalf.

  2. Get a form for everyone* and take the time to read it carefully and sign.

  3. Tools for Aging can direct you to where to obtain advanced directives and provide resources for legal advice.

*Don’t think advanced directives are needed only when you are older. These documents can and should be filled out by everyone over the age of 21.

How to Let One Parent Know the Other Parent Might Need Help

  1. Understand the signs yourself. Is your mother having trouble with her balance?
    Is your father having noticeable trouble hearing you or is he forgetting things? Spouses might be in denial or not see changes as clearly as an outsider does.

  2. Get help to make a tough conversation much easier and more productive for everyone concerned.
    An objective aging professional from Tools for Aging can shift the dynamics, help pinpoint problems and find solutions.

How to Stop the Bleeding Heart From Bleeding the Bank Account

  1. Pay attention to your parents’ checking account.
    Have your parents been writing multiple checks to charities? This can add up to hundreds of dollars each month without the check writer realizing it.

  2. If this becomes a problem, consider a neuropsychological assessment and supportive counseling services.
    Tools for Aging can help you find the answers and avoid a financial crisis.